Thuita's 1st Law of Human Nature® - Reflections of a Young Man™

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Thuita's 1st Law of Human Nature®



During my childhood years, there was an uncle of mine who lived with us at home and was particularly fond of punishing me whenever I did anything wrong, which I thought was unfair because he never did the same to my elder brothers. Like he would pinch me painfully for such minor issues as asking him what we were cooking in presence of his friends. He really made my childhood gloomy with his punishments and admonitions.

But one time as an eleven year old, I got fed up with his punishments when I once reacted angrily to his pinching. I went further on to warn him that I would inform my parents of some sins he had committed earlier in life.

I didn't inform my parents of his sins and I felt guilty the following day for confronting him angrily. But at least I shall ever remain thankful for reacting angrily because after that incidence, he never reproached me again for the remaining period of three years that he stayed at home with us.

That tactic of confronting someone who bullies me has worked a few more times in my life that I have come up with a philosophy of living which I sum into what I call the Thuita's 1st Law of Human Nature® which states as follows:
"If a person realizes you are weak and gullible, he will keep on bullying and cheating you until you make him realize otherwise." [1]
This law teaches us that keeping quiet when people are bullying or cheating us is not the best way to deal with them; it only encourages them to do more of it. Instead, we should show people that we have a mind of our own by confronting them as soon as they confront us.

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[1] Here are the second law and third law. These laws have been copyrighted with the Kenya Copyright Board. All rights reserved worldwide. DO NOT QUOTE THEM WITHOUT PERMISSION FROM THE AUTHOR.

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College Memories

Showing a software I developed on the English Premier League fixtures during my STTI days to Hon. Raphael Tuju, the then Rarieda MP and Minister for Foreign Affairs. Looking on was the Kenya Shell/BP managing director, Eng. Patrick Obath.


My high school years at Starehe Boys' Centre were a good ride in that I excelled in academics and extra-curricular activities as well as made friends who made a lasting impact in my life such as 'Sir' Emmanuel Karanja, a brilliant housemate who instilled in me a desire to learn computer programming, and Wesley Chege, a classmate who made me develop an interest in football especially the English Premier League.

Perhaps the only mistake I made as I finished my high school years was failing to have a plan on what to do after I left Starehe. All I remember was that I did not want to join Starehe Technical Training Institute (STTI), a tertiary division of Starehe where students from humble backgrounds in the high school division could join to learn skills in Accounting or Information Technology before joining university. I felt I had had enough of Starehe and it was time to experience the world.

As fate would have it, I failed to get jobs after high school. I had no option but to enrol at STTI which turned out to be the next great thing that happened to me, a proof that we should sometimes thank God for not answering some of our prayers.

It is at the institute that I learnt how to switch on a computer, how to navigate through the Windows Operating System and how to browse the internet. I became so much fascinated with computers that I delved deeper into web design and computer programming.

In addition to learning about computers, I kept aflame my interests in public speaking and piano. I became outspoken during weekly meetings between the institute lecturers and students in which I mostly challenged the school administration to adopt computer systems as a way of improving governance. My ideas would have made Starehe an exceptional school if they had been implemented. But at least I learnt that it takes more than just mere talking to win people to a way of thinking; charisma, confidence, tact and insight are essential in the art of persuasion.

The most memorable public speaking experience was however a talk I gave to the whole school in a series of three days during assembly in which I challenged the students to think like geniuses; telling them that even though there seems nothing new under the sun, there are countless things that have not been discovered, invented, explored or expressed in depth; that creativity is the key to improving quality of life; that true learning should be intellectually and emotionally arousing; and that the secret to true genus is leading a virtuous life.

Perhaps the best thing that happened to me at STTI was getting influenced to apply to top American Colleges by Joseph Mugisha, a schoolmate who had been accepted at MIT. I chose to apply to only four competitive colleges, a process that gave me focus in life by writing personal essays and studying for the SAT exams.

About the only negative thing that happened to me at STTI was getting introduced to internet pornography. And I have since then battled to stop watching pornography and it has become increasingly harder to stop in this era of cheap smartphones.

I personally believe in the sanctity of sex as an act to be engaged within the confines of lawful marriage. Most of the world problems would be greatly diminished if people respected the sanctity of sex because a lot of evil is caused when people bear children they are unable to nurture to responsible adults. For lack of proper parenting, these children morph into criminals, prostitutes, rebels and tricksters.

The invention of the internet, brilliant as it may be, is endangering the sanctity of sex because children are getting exposed to very sexually immoral movies that desensitize them to promiscuous sex.

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The Need for Real Men



Real men were valued in most traditional African communities; some even devised tactics of testing them. Among the Maasai, real men were tested by their ability to kill lions in the wilderness. Among the Agikuyu, real men were tested by their ability to endure pain stoically during circumcision - shouting "Mummy" during the process elicited ridicule and reproach.

Although much has changed in contrast with the traditional African communities, their wisdom of valuing and making real men still remains relevant. This modern world is in dire need of real men amidst the immorality, calamities and injustice that pervade all societies.

The world needs real men who respect the sovereignty of God; who make a lifetime commitment to the acquisition of wisdom, knowledge and enlightenment; who work hard in life to deliver quality goods and services; who set high principles which they maintain in the heat of opposition; who marry sensible wives and remain faithful to them; and who nurture their children into responsible adults.

And how are real men made? Cuddling boys by shielding them from failure and criticism is not how they are made. Real men are made through the test of fire as Lincoln put it years ago. The kind of test that some traditional African communities devised.

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