Positive Quote For Today

"The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself."— C. JoyBell C.

Adjusting to Life Without Mum

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This is my mother back in the early '90s when she was younger than I am now. She was posing for a photo with our family dog and her treasured dairy cows. Can you see the world-famous Ngong Hills in the background?

For the past six months or so, I have formed the habit of listening to one hymn over and over again after taking supper till I retire to bed. I pick the hymn to listen to depending on the mood I am in. Since Mum died three weeks ago, I have been listening to "What a Friend We Have in Jesus", a hymn I preserve for those moments I am feeling low.

Mum's death grieved me so much that I have overslept on some mornings and turned a bit indolent during the day - vices I had vowed to never go back to. But at least I am proud of myself for not over-eating or watching adult films on the internet as I grieved the loss of my mother.

Perhaps it is that unfamiliar feeling of grief that had made me desire to be the first one in my family to die. I just didn't want to be there when my loved ones are being buried. The day Mum passed away, I wished I had been killed in a road accident a few days before.

Given how I enjoy praying, reading, writing, singing, exercising, playing the piano and staying in touch with friends, I have an inkling I might live to be 96 and thus become the last in my present family to die. So I am bracing myself psychologically for many more burials of loved ones.

Going back to Mum's death, it really did sadden me. In the days that followed her demise, there was a flurry of activities at home. Tents were set up, meetings held and many cars driven to our homestead by friends and relatives who came to condole with us. And there were announcements on radio and newspapers about Mum's promotion to glory.

Those activities and announcements gave one the impression that Mum was a great lady. But you know what? Often when I was left alone with her here at home before her death, she appeared to me like an ordinary woman. If only I had appreciated her more! I am now in the phase of adjusting to life at home without her.

Sickly though Mum was in the last eleven years of her life, she had a profound influence on our home. She was always concerned about us. Sometimes when I was late in arriving home from my evening exercises, she would worriedly ask in Kikuyu, "Has Thuita come?" And when Dad was held up somewhere, she would keep on phoning him just to be assured he was safe and sound.

Being the lover of food that she was, Mum always ensured there was something in the house for us to feast on. She would instruct our farmhands to prepare porridge for us and remind them when to take maize to the posho mill so that we had maize-flour for cooking ugali, one of my favorite meals.

Mum also cared about our farm. On the onset of every rainy season, she would have our farmhands plant kales, beans, maize, spinach and pumpkins. And sometimes when my brothers paid us a visit, she would inquire from them if the farm looked well tended.

Not only did Mum care about our farm but also its workers. She used to remind Dad about the salaries of our farmhands at the beginning of every month. And she was keen to have the farmhands do the work they were paid for. Nothing used to bother her more than seeing our farmhands monkey around when they should have been working.

A shrewd judge of people, Mum could tell which farmhands were honest and which were light-fingered. She would caution us to be careful when dealing with the light-fingered farmhands. And whenever she disliked any of them, she would employ clever tactics to have them fired.

Early this month, Dad was not remembering he hadn't paid our current farmhand, a reliable and hard-working fellow named Allan who Mum liked. I am the one who reminded Dad about Allan's salary. We are truly feeling Mum's absence at home.

Previously, I had divided my life into two major times: the time when Mum used to run her shop and the time she stayed with me at home after she became ill. Needless to say, I have now begun another time of my life - a time without Mum and which might last for 60 years if I live to be 96.

I know it's going to be emotionally draining when memories of Mum and the times we shared together come flooding back in my mind. Even more depressing will be not seeing Mum witness me achieve my dreams. So as you whisper your own prayers, whisper a small one for me too.

RECOMMENDATION: If you've enjoyed the above story on me adjusting to life without Mum, you might also enjoy another one on "Part 1: Appreciating Mothers" which I wrote in 2020 on Mother's Day. Just click on that link in blue to dive straight into the story.


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Lessons From a Common Man

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This is Njogu, a patriotic friend of mine who I shall talk about in the story below.

If there is one person I have come to draw inspiration from, it is Njogu - an age-mate of mine who works in my hometown of Kiserian. He is hard-working and committed to every job he does, however lowly it is. And he must be a God-fearing chap given the way I have found him dancing to Christian music in crusades held on the streets of Kiserian.

I have known Njogu since we were small boys back in the '90s. He would sometimes come to our church and recite Swahili poems which he loved and believed in. Despite his passion for poetry and public-speaking, I don't think he had the privilege of finishing his primary school education.

Earlier in the previous decade, I used to see Njogu do business in Kiserian using a cart. He would transport people's goods in the cart which he pulled with his hands. And I would spot him barefooted, either because he disliked shoes or he earned too little money to afford footwear. But when it rained, he had the sense to wear gumboots.

Njogu's work as a cart-puller made him famous in Kiserian. People often talked about how he pulled his cart for long distances. I heard through the grapevine in Kiserian that one prominent politician was so impressed with Njogu's industrious nature that he bought him a public service vehicle to ease his life.

A few years ago, I started seeing Njogu control road traffic in Kiserian Town while clad in reflector jackets. That made me guess he had been offered the job by the local government, thus saving him from the back-breaking work of pulling a cart all day long.

Just as he did his previous work as a cart-puller with zeal, Njogu has taken his job as a road traffic controller like a duck to water. He is very passionate about it, something I am sure has earned him a number of enemies who can't tolerate his commands.

Last month, I caught sight of him controlling traffic near a petrol station in Kiserian. When I continued with my walk and reached a certain bridge where there was a traffic snarl-up, I found Njogu there. How he got to the bridge before me yet I had left him busy controlling traffic at the petrol station is something that baffled me.

And last week, Njogu was very helpful during the funeral of my mother. The night before the funeral, he came to our home and attended a funeral arrangement meeting during which he promised to ensure traffic flowed smoothly as we laid our dear Mum to rest.

In the course of the meeting, one of the attendees - a catechist named Njoroge - attested to Njogu's baffling ability of seeming to be in two places at the same time. He narrated how he would leave Njogu in one place and then travel to another place, only to find him there as well.

After the meeting, I approached Njogu to inquire more about his fascinating life. He informed me that he was given his current job of controlling road traffic in Kiserian by the government. But he didn't disclose to me who in the government organized the job for him.

True to his word, Njogu worked hard to ensure traffic flowed smoothly as we laid Mum to rest. He was at our home by 5.30am on funeral day. And I happened to sit beside him in the car that drove us to the mortuary.

At one point during our ride to the mortuary, Njogu broke the silence in the car and asked us in Swahili, "Unaona gari yangu? (Can you see my vehicle?)" He pointed to a stylish bus that he claimed he was bought for by Amb. Francis Muthaura, a former high-ranking government official in Kenya.

When he told us so, I inquired from him whether the stories I had heard about a prominent politician buying him a public service vehicle were true. He said they were indeed true and when I asked him which politician in particular bought him the vehicle, he thought for a moment and said it was Dr. Titus Naikuni.

With that, Njogu concluded he now had two public service vehicles, including the stylish bus he had pointed to us. Mark you, this is the same Njogu who used to pull a cart in Kiserian, barefooted. Sounds like a rags-to-riches tale, doesn't it?

Njogu has his admirers in Kiserian. As we were travelling back from the mortuary, some ladies spoke of him in glowing terms. They commented on how he was fitted to his current job as a road traffic controller, how he was dedicated to it and how the police respected him for helping them deliver their duties.

I hope people out there will also admire the stories and videos I share on this blog in the same way folks in Kiserian have admired Njogu for his diligence in doing his jobs and even gifted him with vehicles. That's why Njogu has become my inspiration, uneducated though he is.

RECOMMENDATION: If you've enjoyed the above story on lessons from a common man, you might also enjoy another one on "My Hometown of Kiserian" which I wrote sometime back. Just click on that link in blue to dive straight into the story.


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Bible Quote

"Always be full of joy in the Lord; I say it again, rejoice! Let everyone see that you are unselfish and considerate in all you do... Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."

~Phillipians 4:4-7 (TLB)

About the Author

Name: Thuita J. Maina
Nationality: Kenyan
Lives in: Kiserian, Rift Valley, Kenya
Mission: To inspire the world to godly living, one person at a time.

Just For Laughs

There was this drunkard named Azoge who loved drinking at Josiah\'s Bar. On being told a certain Hon. Nanga was flying to America to be conferred a law degree so that he could be admitted to the bar, Azoge replied, "Why fly all the way to America to be admitted to the bar while you can get into Josiah\'s Bar any time?"

The 7 Deadly Sins

  1. Pride
  2. Envy
  3. Gluttony
  4. Lust
  5. Anger
  6. Greed
  7. Sloth

Author's Note

I am learning to treat life as a journey, not a destination. So I am trying to enjoy each day as I anticipate to fulfill my dreams especially meeting my soulmate and traveling abroad. Tomorrow may never be mine.

Fun Facts

  1. The fear of having no cell-phone service, running out of battery, or losing sight of your phone is called Nomophobia, reportedly affecting 66% of people.
  2. A single Google search needs more computing power than it took to send Apollo 11 to the moon. The Apollo computer was less equipped than a modern toaster.
  3. Besides being some of the biggest names in the tech industry, HP, Apple, Google and Microsoft share another commonality. They all started in garages.
~Extracted from Codingforums.com

Health Tip

So many of us take for granted the wonderful construction of the human body and the workings of its various parts. Some of us even expect it to function efficiently with less than the minimum care and attention. Learn the much you can about your body and how the care of it can help to give you that greatest blessing of all - good health.

Wonders of the Modern World

  1. The Simplon Tunnel
  2. The Sky-scrapers of New York
  3. The Boulder Dam of Colorado
  4. The Panama Canal
  5. The Golden Gate Bridge
  6. The Taj Mahal at Agra in India
  7. The North Sea Oil Drilling Rigs

Great Example for Politicians

"My life in politics was a joy. I loved campaigns and I loved governing. I always tried to keep things moving in the right direction, to give more people a chance to live their dreams, to lift people's spirits, and to bring them together. That's the way I kept score."

~Bill Clinton

Scientific Marvels

  1. Space travel
  2. Heart surgery
  3. Fibre-optics communication
  4. Concorde
  5. Computers & Radios
  6. Anesthetics
  7. The atom bomb

My Supreme Desire

Although I'd like to be rich and famous, my supreme desire is to be radiant: to radiate health, cheerfulness, calm courage and goodwill. I wish to live without hate, guilt, worry, jealousy, cynicism and envy. I wish to be honest, natural, confident, clean in mind and body - ready to say "I do not know" if it be so and to treat all men with kindness - to meet any loss, failure, criticism and rejection unabashed and unafraid.

Greatest American Presidents

  1. Abraham Lincoln
  2. George Washington
  3. Thomas Jefferson
  4. Franklin Roosevelt
  5. Theodore Roosevelt
  6. Woodrow Wilson
  7. Andrew Jackson

Making Peace With the Past

"Dwell not on your past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."

~Eileen Caddy

Toughest Colleges to Get Into

  1. MIT
  2. Princeton
  3. Harvard
  4. Yale
  5. Stanford
  6. Brown
  7. Columbia

Why You Should Trust God

"Men and women who turn their lives over to God will find out that He can make a lot more out of their lives than they can. He will deepen their joys, expand their vision, quicken their minds, strengthen their muscles, lift their spirits, multiply their blessings, increase their opportunities and pour out peace."

~Ezra Taft Benson

The 7 Greatest Scientists

  1. Albert Einstein
  2. Isaac Newton
  3. Galileo Galilei
  4. Nikola Tesla
  5. Aristotle
  6. Archimedes
  7. Charles Darwin

You Matter

"Always be yourself. Never try to hide who you are. The only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never regret the past; it's a waste of time. There's a reason for everything. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you, grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself and most importantly, do your thing and never apologize for being you."


The Most Industrialized Nations

  1. The United States
  2. Japan
  3. Germany
  4. France
  5. United Kingdom
  6. Italy
  7. Canada

Keys to Success

"...in his effort to withstand temptation, to economize, to exercise thrift, to disregard the superficial for the real - the shadow for the substance; to be great yet small, in his effort to be patient in the laying of a firm foundation; to so grow in skill and knowledge that he shall place his services in demand by reason of his intrinsic and superior worth. This is the key that unlocks every door of opportunity, and all others fail."

~Booker T. Washington

The 7 Social Sins

  1. Politics without principle
  2. Wealth without work
  3. Pleasure without conscience
  4. Knowledge without character
  5. Commerce without morality
  6. Worship without sacrifice
  7. Science without humanity

Cherish What You Love

"Cherish your visions, cherish your ideals, cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts - for out of them will grow all heavenly environment, of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built."

~James Allen

The World's Largest Cities

  1. London in England
  2. New York in the United States
  3. Tokyo in Japan
  4. Berlin in Germany
  5. Chicago in the United States
  6. Shanghai in China
  7. Paris in France

Benefits of Optimism

"In terms of success, optimistic people out perform their pessimistic colleagues. Research shows that they are consistently promoted higher and make more money while working fewer hours than those who think pessimistically. Optimists also contribute more significantly to social progress. It is the optimists who start and run successful companies, who win elections and carry out reforms, and who make breakthroughs in the realms of science and technology."

~Pepe Minambo

The World's Greatest Lakes

  1. Caspian Sea in the Commonwealth of Independent States, C.I.S. (formerly U.S.S.R)
  2. Lake Superior in North America
  3. Victoria Nyanza in Central Africa
  4. Aral Sea in C.I.S.
  5. Lake Huron in North America
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Demonstrating His Love

"Take your communication for instance - the way you address others. It ought to be with loving, gracious and edifying words. Never talk people down. Never use words that hurt and demean people. Communicate excellently with others without destroying their self-image or making them feel sorry for themselves. Talk to people in a way that they never forget the excellence of your words, the love and grace of Christ that you communicated. It's how God wants us to love."

~Dr. Chris Oyakhilome

World's Longest Rivers

  1. Missouri-Mississipi (U.S.)
  2. Amazon (Brazil)
  3. Nile (Egypt)
  4. Yangtse (China)
  5. Lena (Russia)
  6. Zaire (Central Africa)
  7. Niger (West Africa)