Positive Quote For Today

"The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself."— C. JoyBell C.



Dad Develops Complications

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This is me with Dad at home. Lying on the ground is the crutch he has been walking with.


God blessed my brothers and I with the best Dad we could ever have wished for. He has always been there for us, rarely spending a night away from home. And he has always taken a keen interest in our lives ever since we were small boys.

It is Dad who introduced us to the fascinating world of books. Right from when we were young, he encouraged us to read widely and wisely. He urged us to devour novels like Daniel Defoe's Robinson Crusoe while seeing to it that we excelled in our studies at school.

Probably because he is an accountant, maths was his forte. So he gave us home lessons in maths when we were in primary school. Thanks to those home lessons, I learnt a few mathematical wonders before my classmates did at school. Wonders such as subtracting 7 from 3, something I previously thought impossible.

Dad also seemed to have an intuitive understanding of how writing can improve the quality of our thinking and ultimately the quality of our lives. For how else can you explain the effort he took to correct the letters and compositions he had us write?

A couple of years ago, my younger brother Symo recounted in our WhatsApp group how, when he was a boy, he copied a story from a textbook and presented it to Dad as his own composition. Dad went ahead to correct several sentences in the composition. He was such a grammar Nazi.

Although he is well past 70 years now, Dad still plays an active role in our lives. He sometimes dishes out advice to us, especially to Symo who is based in the British island of Bermuda. And he occasionally sends us informative messages and video clips on WhatsApp.

Here at home, Dad ensures we have food, water and electricity. He especially likes it when there are eggs and fruits for me to feast on. And by attending the meetings of a certain home-area association, he keeps us in touch with our neighbours.

Before Mum passed away about two months ago, Dad used to impress me with his devotion to her. Without complaining, he regularly washed her clothes and cleaned up after her. He also bought her anything she desired, such as skirts, phone credit and seeds for planting.

Since we laid Mum to rest, Dad has developed some health complications that are similar to those Mum had. At first, he complained of pain in his left knee. The pain made it difficult for him to walk for a long distance.

As the days have rolled by, Dad's complications have grown worse. He is now walking with the crutches that were Mum's. Whenever he has to travel anywhere, he has to hire a taxi because he can't cover the distance from home to our nearest town on foot.

Last Tuesday when Dad arrived home from the hospital, he called me and then asked me to help him ascend a short flight of stairs to our mansion - the same thing Mum used to ask us to do.

Again like Mum, Dad is now requesting me to go for his phone when it rings while he is far from it. Soon, I know he will be ordering me to serve visitors with tea the way Mum used to have me do.

It's saddening to observe Dad lose his physical abilities when I recall how hardworking and self-reliant he has always been. But that's life.

As I continue living with Dad in our beautifully rustic home here in Kiserian, I don't want to commit the same sins I did to my late mother. Imagine there were times I would flatly refuse to attend to Mum when she needed my assistance.

On one Sunday afternoon in 2015 for instance, Mum implored me to place a chair for her outside our house. After I declined her request several times, she blurted out words that still haunt me to this day. She yelled at me in Kikuyu, "When I die, never come near my grave!"

Fortunately, Mum appeared happy with me before that Sunday ended. And over the last four years before she died, I strived to be there for her. But I would sometimes refuse to do things for her, which made her refer to me as the errant son.

Such are the kind of sins I don't want to repeat on Dad now that he is becoming disabled like Mum. Even though I can't tease him the way I used to do to Mum because he is naturally a reserved person, I will at least help him out in anything he is unable to do.

By helping Dad, I will be obeying the Commandment which says, "Honor thy father and thy mother, that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. (Exodus 20:12)" And that's the first Commandment with a promise. Ciao!

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Rethinking My Attitudes

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As I have pointed out before on this blog, people were fond of taking advantage of me probably because I was often timid and confused. They would have me do boring tasks without pay. Some would even tempt me into having an affair with them when I wasn't ready to be in a relationship.

One Sunday in 2006 for instance, a fellow youth member in the catholic church where I worshipped approached me after mass and informed me that she had forgotten her lip balm in the church. Perhaps due to her fear of facing the new church occupants who were now attending another mass, she asked me to go for the lip balm. I obeyed her and went to search for it.

Try as I might, I couldn't locate the lip balm at the spot the lass had directed me to. When I reported back to her that I hadn't seen the lip balm, she apprised me that she had found it elsewhere and then apologized to me for the inconvenience. Even though I didn't realize it at the time, the lass had exploited me by making me do a task she should have done herself.

Then on another evening in 2014 as I was walking home, an elderly man stopped me from a distance and requested me to help him carry a heavy sack. Since the man has been a close friend of mine, I acceded to his request and trudged along with him with the heavy sack in our hands. What pains me when I think of that evening is that the man never gave me a tip for my services. He just took advantage of me.

It is such emotional pain I have felt whenever I remember the incidents I was exploited that made me resolve to never assist anyone without charging a stipend, except my parents. And that resolution has made me uncooperative at times, something my younger brother Symo can testify to.

Some of the services I resolved to charge for are helping neighbours whose cars have stuck in mud or stalled and refused to start. I reasoned that if the neighbours afford petrol for their cars, then they certainly have the money to pay me for my services.

Another resolution I made was to decline doing boring tasks imposed on me by others. Tasks such as crossing the road to meet one of those people who shout my name and instruct me to go over to where they are. I have come to see that as a way of being taken advantage of.

To further reduce chances of being exploited, I had also resolved to refrain from talking to my fellow tribesmen in Kikuyu since speaking to them in a more advanced language gave me a sense of superiority that I thought would keep them from taking advantage of me.

But you know what? The day Mum passed away (24th January of this year), I experienced so many acts of love and kindness that have forced me to rethink my attitude towards others.

On the morning of that day, our neighbour Pascaline and her husband rushed to our home in their car to see what they could do to my ailing Mum. When they were unable to ferry her to hospital because she couldn't sit, they directed an ambulance to our home. And they did all that without charging us a single coin.

After Mum was confirmed dead, people flocked to our home to condole with us, often leaving us with money. Some women volunteered to cook for us. They would ask us what we wanted to eat and then bring us our preferred meals. And a number of men - the kind I had resolved to avoid associating with - offered to dig Mum's grave.

A day or two before Mum's funeral, Rev. Waweru - another neighbour of ours - promised to assist us with his generator as a backup in case there was a power outage during the funeral. And when the funeral day reached, my friends Njogu, Dan Waweru and Stephen Kamau rose early to ensure everything went smoothly.

Those acts of love and kindness are what have forced me to rethink the resolutions I had set, such as never offering free services. While I will still be careful to keep good company and to avoid being exploited, I will from now on be more helpful to others, even strangers. When someone needs to talk to me, I will sometimes go over to where they are and listen to what they have in mind.

I will also be conversing with my fellow tribesmen in Kikuyu, a language I am fluent in speaking thanks to my late mother. By doing so, I hope to win their hearts, for as Nelson Mandela quipped, "If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart."

The evil in this world - the lying, the killing, the stealing, the violence, the exploitation, the sexual abuse - is what makes people toxic and negative. But for me, I have made up my mind that no matter what evil is done against me, I will always remain kind, generous and understanding - just like some people were to us when we lost our beloved mother. Adieu!

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Bible Quote

"Always be full of joy in the Lord; I say it again, rejoice! Let everyone see that you are unselfish and considerate in all you do... Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."

~Phillipians 4:4-7 (TLB)

About the Author

Name: Thuita J. Maina
Nationality: Kenyan
Lives in: Kiserian, Rift Valley, Kenya
Mission: To inspire the world to godly living, one person at a time.


Just For Laughs

There was this drunkard named Azoge who loved drinking at Josiah\'s Bar. On being told a certain Hon. Nanga was flying to America to be conferred a law degree so that he could be admitted to the bar, Azoge replied, "Why fly all the way to America to be admitted to the bar while you can get into Josiah\'s Bar any time?"


The 7 Deadly Sins

  1. Pride
  2. Envy
  3. Gluttony
  4. Lust
  5. Anger
  6. Greed
  7. Sloth

Author's Note

I am learning to treat life as a journey, not a destination. So I am trying to enjoy each day as I anticipate to fulfill my dreams especially meeting my soulmate and traveling abroad. Tomorrow may never be mine.


Fun Facts

  1. The fear of having no cell-phone service, running out of battery, or losing sight of your phone is called Nomophobia, reportedly affecting 66% of people.
  2. A single Google search needs more computing power than it took to send Apollo 11 to the moon. The Apollo computer was less equipped than a modern toaster.
  3. Besides being some of the biggest names in the tech industry, HP, Apple, Google and Microsoft share another commonality. They all started in garages.
~Extracted from Codingforums.com

Health Tip

So many of us take for granted the wonderful construction of the human body and the workings of its various parts. Some of us even expect it to function efficiently with less than the minimum care and attention. Learn the much you can about your body and how the care of it can help to give you that greatest blessing of all - good health.


Wonders of the Modern World

  1. The Simplon Tunnel
  2. The Sky-scrapers of New York
  3. The Boulder Dam of Colorado
  4. The Panama Canal
  5. The Golden Gate Bridge
  6. The Taj Mahal at Agra in India
  7. The North Sea Oil Drilling Rigs

Great Example for Politicians

"My life in politics was a joy. I loved campaigns and I loved governing. I always tried to keep things moving in the right direction, to give more people a chance to live their dreams, to lift people's spirits, and to bring them together. That's the way I kept score."

~Bill Clinton

Scientific Marvels

  1. Space travel
  2. Heart surgery
  3. Fibre-optics communication
  4. Concorde
  5. Computers & Radios
  6. Anesthetics
  7. The atom bomb

My Supreme Desire

Although I'd like to be rich and famous, my supreme desire is to be radiant: to radiate health, cheerfulness, calm courage and goodwill. I wish to live without hate, guilt, worry, jealousy, cynicism and envy. I wish to be honest, natural, confident, clean in mind and body - ready to say "I do not know" if it be so and to treat all men with kindness - to meet any loss, failure, criticism and rejection unabashed and unafraid.


Greatest American Presidents

  1. Abraham Lincoln
  2. George Washington
  3. Thomas Jefferson
  4. Franklin Roosevelt
  5. Theodore Roosevelt
  6. Woodrow Wilson
  7. Andrew Jackson

Making Peace With the Past

"Dwell not on your past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."

~Eileen Caddy

Toughest Colleges to Get Into

  1. MIT
  2. Princeton
  3. Harvard
  4. Yale
  5. Stanford
  6. Brown
  7. Columbia

Why You Should Trust God

"Men and women who turn their lives over to God will find out that He can make a lot more out of their lives than they can. He will deepen their joys, expand their vision, quicken their minds, strengthen their muscles, lift their spirits, multiply their blessings, increase their opportunities and pour out peace."

~Ezra Taft Benson

The 7 Greatest Scientists

  1. Albert Einstein
  2. Isaac Newton
  3. Galileo Galilei
  4. Nikola Tesla
  5. Aristotle
  6. Archimedes
  7. Charles Darwin

You Matter

"Always be yourself. Never try to hide who you are. The only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never regret the past; it's a waste of time. There's a reason for everything. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you, grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself and most importantly, do your thing and never apologize for being you."

~Unknown

The Most Industrialized Nations

  1. The United States
  2. Japan
  3. Germany
  4. France
  5. United Kingdom
  6. Italy
  7. Canada

Keys to Success

"...in his effort to withstand temptation, to economize, to exercise thrift, to disregard the superficial for the real - the shadow for the substance; to be great yet small, in his effort to be patient in the laying of a firm foundation; to so grow in skill and knowledge that he shall place his services in demand by reason of his intrinsic and superior worth. This is the key that unlocks every door of opportunity, and all others fail."

~Booker T. Washington

The 7 Social Sins

  1. Politics without principle
  2. Wealth without work
  3. Pleasure without conscience
  4. Knowledge without character
  5. Commerce without morality
  6. Worship without sacrifice
  7. Science without humanity

Cherish What You Love

"Cherish your visions, cherish your ideals, cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts - for out of them will grow all heavenly environment, of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built."

~James Allen

The World's Largest Cities

  1. London in England
  2. New York in the United States
  3. Tokyo in Japan
  4. Berlin in Germany
  5. Chicago in the United States
  6. Shanghai in China
  7. Paris in France

Benefits of Optimism

"In terms of success, optimistic people out perform their pessimistic colleagues. Research shows that they are consistently promoted higher and make more money while working fewer hours than those who think pessimistically. Optimists also contribute more significantly to social progress. It is the optimists who start and run successful companies, who win elections and carry out reforms, and who make breakthroughs in the realms of science and technology."

~Pepe Minambo

The World's Greatest Lakes

  1. Caspian Sea in the Commonwealth of Independent States, C.I.S. (formerly U.S.S.R)
  2. Lake Superior in North America
  3. Victoria Nyanza in Central Africa
  4. Aral Sea in C.I.S.
  5. Lake Huron in North America
  6. Lake Michigan in North America

Demonstrating His Love

"Take your communication for instance - the way you address others. It ought to be with loving, gracious and edifying words. Never talk people down. Never use words that hurt and demean people. Communicate excellently with others without destroying their self-image or making them feel sorry for themselves. Talk to people in a way that they never forget the excellence of your words, the love and grace of Christ that you communicated. It's how God wants us to love."

~Dr. Chris Oyakhilome

World's Longest Rivers

  1. Missouri-Mississipi (U.S.)
  2. Amazon (Brazil)
  3. Nile (Egypt)
  4. Yangtse (China)
  5. Lena (Russia)
  6. Zaire (Central Africa)
  7. Niger (West Africa)