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"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty."— Maya Angelou


Finding a Wife

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Back in 2003 when I was in high school at Starehe Boys' Centre, we were having a Swahili class during one lesson when our teacher, Mr. John Mwaura, digressed a bit and said, "There are some young men who fall in love with old sugar mummies..." I can't recall what he said next but I do vividly remember my classmate Ngaruiya shouting, "Thuita! Thuita! Thuita!"

Ngaruiya was certainly poking fun at me in our usual brotherly mischief because I have never been in a relationship with any woman, even to this day. But at least Ngaruiya did make me cautious not to be seduced by old women while still a handsome young man as some people say I am. And that brings me to the topic of finding a wife.

For the last sixteen years or so, I have thought long and hard about the kind of woman I'd like to have as a wife. In 2007, all I wanted was an attractive lass I could hold hands with while walking on the streets. But these days, I also want her to be a Christian with whom I share similar interests, values and dreams. A true soulmate.

Although I have been cautious about dating women, I must confess that I have at times grown impatient with finding my soulmate. I have used a lot of internet data searching for my ideal woman on social media and dating sites. And I even went to the extent of putting a Ksh. 1,000 advert in a 2014 "Saturday Nation" newspaper, stating briefly that I needed a woman. Of course I did receive numerous calls and messages from interested women but none of them fitted the bill since they weren't writers.

In recent weeks, I have gotten into the habit of imagining me bringing the woman of my dreams to my parents' home here in Kiserian where I live, introducing her to my mother, letting her into my organized room and watching her peruse through my library of books. And boy, haven't I worried that time could run out before I met the woman!

My mother is also concerned about my relationship status. She has been pushing me to get myself a wife like the way my other four siblings have done. And she claims there is a damsel who has expressed interest in marrying me. When she asked me if I wanted to meet the damsel, my reply was a quick, emphatic "no".

Another person - a friend of mine named Dan Waweru - has also pressured me to get a wife. Dan advised me to discard all the notions I have of my ideal wife and just choose a woman with whom I am on the same wavelength.

With such societal pressures to get married, I don't want to lose sight of the fact that choosing a spouse is one of the most important decisions we make in life. As H. Jackson Brown Jr. aptly put it in his book, Life's Little Instruction Book, our marriage partners determine 90% of our happiness or misery.

H. Jackson Brown Jr. was right in saying our marriage partners determine much of our happiness or misery given the stories I have read of folks in abusive marriages. The most touching story was one I read last year in a local newspaper. It was of a woman whose hand was chopped off by an enraged husband. Very sad.

Last week while reading a newspaper, I came across another story of a well-to-do man who had planned to have his wife killed only for the plot to be leaked out by the sniper he had hired, thus landing the man in trouble with the law. Talk of a love affair gone sour.

Those stories about the turmoil some folks go through in relationships have compelled me to exercise patience with finding my soulmate. I just don't want to tie the knot with a woman and then regret my decision later on as I have dreamt in two night dreams over the past two years.

Because I believe in God and I have witnessed Him come through for me in the past, I have left the issue of finding a wife in His able hands while I work on being a kind, generous and hard-working man. You see, I also want to possess the traits I want in my future wife.

As I continue moulding myself into a man of substance, I pray that I soon meet an attractive woman who will fall in love with my flaws and think I am perfect just the way I am, who will see me as handsome and will be proud to show me off to anyone she knows, who will never want to hurt me, and who will think I am the one she would love to wake up to each day. So help me God.

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The Sad Story of Simon Makonde

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While browsing the internet one day a decade ago, I came across in a certain blog a fictional story about Simon Makonde. Apparently, the story was in a Kenyan primary textbook of our time but I can't remember reading it during my primary school years. Maybe that's why I was ridiculed as dull and dumb.

I didn't fully comprehend the Simon Makonde story as narrated in the blog I read it in but I went ahead to write a post about it on my blog. And guess what! The post attracted quite a number of blog visitors who were searching for more information about Simon Makonde, meaning the story was trending on the internet.

As the story goes, Simon Makonde was born on a Monday. He was named on a Tuesday. He was married on a Wednesday. He was taken ill on a Thursday. He was treated on a Friday. He died on a Saturday. He was buried on a Sunday. And that's the sad story of Simon Makonde.

It's quite obvious the story is sad because Simon Makonde never accomplished anything worthwhile and legendary in his life. He was just born, named, married, and then he fell ill and died. What a wasted life!

Come to think of it, this world is full of Simon Makondes. Many people are afraid of standing out from the crowd. They fear failure, criticism, rejection and even success itself. And such unhealthy fear keeps them from leaving a mark on this planet.

That reminds me of a short poem I read in Denis Waitley's delightful book, Being the Best. The poem went as follows:
There was a very cautious man
Who never laughed or played
He never risked, he never tried
He never sang or prayed
And when he one day passed away
His insurance was denied
For since he never really lived
They claimed he never died.
Yes, this world is full of Simon Makondes. That's why it is said the richest place is not in Israel or America. The richest place is in a cemetery, for therein lies books that were never written, music that was never composed, inventions that were never made and businesses that were never started - all because the dead were afraid of venturing out.

The story of Simon Makonde has inspired me to love and accept myself more completely, to open my heart to others more fully, to trust and believe in myself more deeply, and to pursue my dreams more boldly and passionately. One of my dreams is to become an internationally acclaimed blogger in my own unique way.

I am very passionate about blogging not only because it utilizes my talents in writing, singing, piano-playing and computer-programming but also because it connects me with people all across the world, thus diminishing the feeling of loneliness, a major contributor to mental illnesses.

Like I have said before, constructing this blog to what it looks today has been a challenging but exhilarating experience. I have faced much criticism and rejection along the way. But the hope of a better tomorrow is what keeps me pressing forward.

Since I am a certified evangelist, this blog is now my ministry. I am always endeavoring to share stories, quotes and videos that draw people closer to God and to His principles. And my prayer is that the blog will continue impacting future generations after I die.

As I keep on striving to be a consistent and entertaining blogger, I will heed the advice of Ray Stata, an American entrepreneur, engineer and investor who urged the 2010 graduating class of MIT not to risk failure. Ray Stata told the MIT graduates that "you can't play it safe and win" - a lesson that can be gleaned from the sad story of Simon Makonde.

My beloved reader, I challenge you to also not lead your life the Simon Makonde way. Dare to take the road less travelled. Aspire to achieve something worthwhile and legendary in your life. Let it be said of us after we die that "we came, we saw, we conquered". Adieu!

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Bible Quote

"Always be full of joy in the Lord; I say it again, rejoice! Let everyone see that you are unselfish and considerate in all you do... Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."

~Phillipians 4:4-7 (TLB)

About the Author

Name: Thuita J. Maina
Nationality: Kenyan
Lives in: Kiserian, Rift Valley, Kenya
Mission: To inspire the world to godly living, one person at a time.

Just For Laughs

There was this drunkard named Azoge who loved drinking at Josiah's Bar. On being told a certain Hon. Nanga was flying to America to be conferred a law degree so that he could be admitted to the bar, Azoge replied, "Why fly all the way to America to be admitted to the bar while you can get into Josiah's Bar any time?"



The 7 Deadly Sins

  1. Pride
  2. Envy
  3. Gluttony
  4. Lust
  5. Anger
  6. Greed
  7. Sloth

Author's Note

I am learning to treat life as a journey, not a destination. So I am trying to enjoy each day as I anticipate to fulfill my dreams especially meeting my soulmate and traveling abroad. Tomorrow may never be mine.

Fun Facts

  1. The fear of having no cell-phone service, running out of battery, or losing sight of your phone is called Nomophobia, reportedly affecting 66% of people.
  2. A single Google search needs more computing power than it took to send Apollo 11 to the moon. The Apollo computer was less equipped than a modern toaster.
  3. Besides being some of the biggest names in the tech industry, HP, Apple, Google and Microsoft share another commonality. They all started in garages.
~Extracted from Codingforums.com

Health Tip

So many of us take for granted the wonderful construction of the human body and the workings of its various parts. Some of us even expect it to function efficiently with less than the minimum care and attention. Learn the much you can about your body and how the care of it can help to give you that greatest blessing of all - good health.


Wonders of the Modern World

  1. The Simplon Tunnel
  2. The Sky-scrapers of New York
  3. The Boulder Dam of Colorado
  4. The Panama Canal
  5. The Golden Gate Bridge
  6. The Taj Mahal at Agra in India
  7. The North Sea Oil Drilling Rigs

Great Example for Politicians

"My life in politics was a joy. I loved campaigns and I loved governing. I always tried to keep things moving in the right direction, to give more people a chance to live their dreams, to lift people's spirits, and to bring them together. That's the way I kept score."

~Bill Clinton

Scientific Marvels

  1. Space travel
  2. Heart surgery
  3. Fibre-optics communication
  4. Concorde
  5. Computers & Radios
  6. Anesthetics
  7. The atom bomb

My Supreme Desire

Although I'd like to be rich and famous, my supreme desire is to be radiant: to radiate health, cheerfulness, calm courage and goodwill. I wish to live without hate, guilt, worry, jealousy, cynicism and envy. I wish to be honest, natural, confident, clean in mind and body - ready to say "I do not know" if it be so and to treat all men with kindness - to meet any loss, failure, criticism and rejection unabashed and unafraid.



Greatest American Presidents

  1. Abraham Lincoln
  2. George Washington
  3. Thomas Jefferson
  4. Franklin Roosevelt
  5. Theodore Roosevelt
  6. Woodrow Wilson
  7. Andrew Jackson

Making Peace With the Past

"Dwell not on your past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."

~Eileen Caddy

Toughest Colleges to Get Into

  1. MIT
  2. Princeton
  3. Harvard
  4. Yale
  5. Stanford
  6. Brown
  7. Columbia

Why You Should Trust God

"Men and women who turn their lives over to God will find out that He can make a lot more out of their lives than they can. He will deepen their joys, expand their vision, quicken their minds, strengthen their muscles, lift their spirits, multiply their blessings, increase their opportunities and pour out peace."

~Ezra Taft Benson

The 7 Greatest Scientists

  1. Albert Einstein
  2. Isaac Newton
  3. Galileo Galilei
  4. Nikola Tesla
  5. Aristotle
  6. Archimedes
  7. Charles Darwin

You Matter

"Always be yourself. Never try to hide who you are. The only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never regret the past; it's a waste of time. There's a reason for everything. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you, grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself and most importantly, do your thing and never apologize for being you."

~Unknown

The Most Industrialized Nations

  1. The United States
  2. Japan
  3. Germany
  4. France
  5. United Kingdom
  6. Italy
  7. Canada

Keys to Success

"...in his effort to withstand temptation, to economize, to exercise thrift, to disregard the superficial for the real - the shadow for the substance; to be great yet small, in his effort to be patient in the laying of a firm foundation; to so grow in skill and knowledge that he shall place his services in demand by reason of his intrinsic and superior worth. This is the key that unlocks every door of opportunity, and all others fail."

~Booker T. Washington

The 7 Social Sins

  1. Politics without principle
  2. Wealth without work
  3. Pleasure without conscience
  4. Knowledge without character
  5. Commerce without morality
  6. Worship without sacrifice
  7. Science without humanity

Cherish What You Love

"Cherish your visions, cherish your ideals, cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts - for out of them will grow all heavenly environment, of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built."~James Allen

The World's Largest Cities

  1. London in England
  2. New York in the United States
  3. Tokyo in Japan
  4. Berlin in Germany
  5. Chicago in the United States
  6. Shanghai in China
  7. Paris in France

Benefits of Optimism

"In terms of success, optimistic people out perform their pessimistic colleagues. Research shows that they are consistently promoted higher and make more money while working fewer hours than those who think pessimistically. Optimists also contribute more significantly to social progress. It is the optimists who start and run successful companies, who win elections and carry out reforms, and who make breakthroughs in the realms of science and technology."

~Pepe Minambo

The World's Greatest Lakes

  1. Caspian Sea in the Commonwealth of Independent States, C.I.S. (formerly U.S.S.R)
  2. Lake Superior in North America
  3. Victoria Nyanza in Central Africa
  4. Aral Sea in C.I.S.
  5. Lake Huron in North America
  6. Lake Michigan in North America

Demonstrating His Love

"Take your communication for instance - the way you address others. It ought to be with loving, gracious and edifying words. Never talk people down. Never use words that hurt and demean people. Communicate excellently with others without destroying their self-image or making them feel sorry for themselves. Talk to people in a way that they never forget the excellence of your words, the love and grace of Christ that you communicated. It's how God wants us to love."

~Dr. Chris Oyakhilome

World's Longest Rivers

  1. Missouri-Mississipi (U.S.)
  2. Amazon (Brazil)
  3. Nile (Egypt)
  4. Yangtse (China)
  5. Lena (Russia)
  6. Zaire (Central Africa)
  7. Niger (West Africa)