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"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty."— Maya Angelou


Living in Freedom

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One morning in 2015, I was preparing to have tea at Rose of Sharon Academy in Nairobi where I was teaching piano when someone phoned me with an unsaved number and said he was calling from CID (Criminal Investigation Department). He started interrogating assertively, making me cringe in fear. And if my memory serves me well, he used my name, which meant he knew who I was.

Sensing that I was becoming fearful and nervous, the caller lightened up and disclosed to me that he was Silah Tarbai, a classmate of mine in high school. Gosh! I felt relieved. Silah had scared the living daylights out of me.

I soon learnt that Silah had gotten my phone number from my blog, which is why I have become leery of sharing my number online. And he must have begun his phone call with a pretence that he was calling from CID just to frighten me a little in our usual high school mischief.

The fear that Silah aroused in me when he deadpanned that he was calling from CID must be what a young man with unkempt hair that I once met felt when he spotted a police car on a road leading to my home. He worriedly asked me if the vehicle was really a police car.

To tell you the truth, I hate living with such unhealthy fear. What I desire most - even more than wealth and fame - is the freedom to be myself, something that I have not always been privileged to possess.

If you don't know my life history, let me inform you that I grew up as a confused and timorous teenager. I used to feel horribly awkward and aloof in social gatherings. It was like I was in a prison of my own making.

Then when I became an adult, someone started bullying me, thus denying me the much needed freedom to be myself. He would bully me when I was at home and when out there in the streets walking. Guess who that bully was? It was me!

Yes, I bullied myself a lot by reminding myself of my past foolish deeds, by worrying what others thought of me, by remembering those who had offended me, by fearing something could go terribly wrong in the future and by thinking I didn't have what it takes to be a success.

Such negative thoughts left in their wake feelings of guilt, worry, bitterness and insecurity in my soul. Sometimes the guilt would get so intense that you'd think I had committed one of those heinous crimes that land people in prison.

In an attempt to extricate myself from that self-imposed prison, I have in the last three years worked diligently at leading a disciplined life. I have been getting out of bed every morning and staying active during the day, mostly by reading and meditating.

My efforts are bearing fruit because for the past four months, the quality of my thought life has improved. I have felt wonderfully freed from all shame, anxiety and condemnation.

As I endeavor to keep up the momentum of being at peace with myself, I am figuring out that the key to living in freedom, in addition to leading a life of integrity and discipline, is acquiring knowledge and applying it in my day-to-day living. Especially the knowledge in the Bible.

Actually, the whole point of the gospel of Christ is to set us free from guilt, worry, bitterness and insecurity. Jesus Himself quipped that He came so that we may have life and have it in abundance. (John 10:10)

Maybe that's why Rev. Sammy Wainaina, the former provost of All Saints' Cathedral in Nairobi, encouraged me to feel free at the cathedral when I turned up for church service on one Sunday in 2012. He told me, "Feel free! Look around. Is anyone here after you?"

My beloved reader, I exhort you to also strive to live in freedom. Free yourself from all evil and lead a life of integrity. Entrust your life to God for He cares for you. And acquire knowledge, discipline and understanding because, as they say, only the disciplined are free. Adieu!

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RECOMMENDATION: If you've enjoyed the above story on living in freedom, you might also enjoy another one on "What Freedom Entails" which I wrote about five years ago. Just click on that link in blue to dive straight into the story.

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Dropping People Out of Our Lives

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When I was teaching piano at a music school in Nairobi in 2015, there got employed in the school a receptionist named Faith who became one of my admirers. She would tell me how she loved the way I smiled. I could tell from her demeanors that she was dying to have me as a boyfriend.

Even though I never admired Faith in return, I somehow liked her wisdom and caring nature. She gave me one of the best pieces of advice I have ever received. The advice was that I get rid of negative people in my life. "Drop them!" was her mantra for dealing with toxic humans.

It has taken me a long time to fully appreciate Faith's advice and implement it in my life. Since I am a good-natured fellow, I have always strived to live at peace with everyone. When people were rude to me or treated me with contempt, I kept being their friend.

There was, for instance, a lass called Deborah [not her real name] that I met at the University of Nairobi in 2010. Now, Deborah was rude to me at every opportunity, right from when I first set my eyes on her. I just don't what it was about me that made her hate me.

Later on in 2011 when Deborah and I became friends on Facebook, I sent her a lengthy message, lamenting how she was always looking down on me. My conciliatory message seemed to appease her given the way she wrote back to me and apologized for her behavior.

But alas! One evening when I handed her a piece of paper with my blog address and implored her to visit the blog, she rudely threw the paper back to me. Her arrogance made me dislike her so much that as I was walking to the university one morning, all I was thinking about was her repulsive behavior. And it's not like I admired her or anything, which makes me wonder why I kept trying to be her friend.

Then there was Sr. Frances Connochie, a British nun who worked as a pastoral counsellor and Social Education & Ethics teacher at Starehe Boys' Centre, my high school. Sr. Connochie got to know me in 2006 when I approached her for a counsellor's recommendation letter to four top American colleges I was applying for admission. She went ahead to pen a glowing letter, a copy of which I still have with me to this day.

After getting to know me, Sr. Connochie became a good friend of mine, or so I thought. She always wished me a happy birthday when we connected on Facebook earlier in the previous decade. And when I was running for a political seat in the 2013 general elections of Kenya, she sent me a handsome contribution for my campaign funds. Unfortunately, my campaign was a complete flop.

Thinking we were great friends, I kept sending Sr. Connochie frequent emails to update her on how I was getting along with life. But one day in 2015, she suddenly turned against me and instructed me to never bother her again. Her remarks hurt me deeply like a sword. And that was the last email I ever received from her.

When I opened a new Facebook account in 2016, I sent Sr. Connochie a friend request which she refused to accept, even after requesting her to do so. She just ignored the message I sent to her and a comment I wrote on one of her Facebook posts.

To be honest, I found it odd for Sr. Connochie to reject me given that she was a pastoral counsellor and a nun with a degree from a respected university in America. When I heard of her death last year, I would have written a blog story about her had she not turned against me. Now that she is dead and gone, I will never get to know what made her loathe me.

On mature reflection, I regret the time I spent trying to win Deborah and Sr. Connochie as friends. I just wasted my time befriending people who were hell-bent on becoming my enemies.

But I have learnt a lesson. These days, I no longer beg people to stay in my life. When someone is disrespectful to me, I just drop them out of my life like a piece of red-hot charcoal. And when I find myself in a place where respect is not being served, I simply walk away. "Drop them!" is my new mantra for dealing with toxic people.

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Bible Quote

"Always be full of joy in the Lord; I say it again, rejoice! Let everyone see that you are unselfish and considerate in all you do... Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."

~Phillipians 4:4-7 (TLB)

About the Author

Name: Thuita J. Maina
Nationality: Kenyan
Lives in: Kiserian, Rift Valley, Kenya
Mission: To inspire the world to godly living, one person at a time.

Just For Laughs

There was this drunkard named Azoge who loved drinking at Josiah's Bar. On being told a certain Hon. Nanga was flying to America to be conferred a law degree so that he could be admitted to the bar, Azoge replied, "Why fly all the way to America to be admitted to the bar while you can get into Josiah's Bar any time?"



The 7 Deadly Sins

  1. Pride
  2. Envy
  3. Gluttony
  4. Lust
  5. Anger
  6. Greed
  7. Sloth

Author's Note

I am learning to treat life as a journey, not a destination. So I am trying to enjoy each day as I anticipate to fulfill my dreams especially meeting my soulmate and traveling abroad. Tomorrow may never be mine.

Fun Facts

  1. The fear of having no cell-phone service, running out of battery, or losing sight of your phone is called Nomophobia, reportedly affecting 66% of people.
  2. A single Google search needs more computing power than it took to send Apollo 11 to the moon. The Apollo computer was less equipped than a modern toaster.
  3. Besides being some of the biggest names in the tech industry, HP, Apple, Google and Microsoft share another commonality. They all started in garages.
~Extracted from Codingforums.com

Health Tip

So many of us take for granted the wonderful construction of the human body and the workings of its various parts. Some of us even expect it to function efficiently with less than the minimum care and attention. Learn the much you can about your body and how the care of it can help to give you that greatest blessing of all - good health.


Wonders of the Modern World

  1. The Simplon Tunnel
  2. The Sky-scrapers of New York
  3. The Boulder Dam of Colorado
  4. The Panama Canal
  5. The Golden Gate Bridge
  6. The Taj Mahal at Agra in India
  7. The North Sea Oil Drilling Rigs

Great Example for Politicians

"My life in politics was a joy. I loved campaigns and I loved governing. I always tried to keep things moving in the right direction, to give more people a chance to live their dreams, to lift people's spirits, and to bring them together. That's the way I kept score."

~Bill Clinton

Scientific Marvels

  1. Space travel
  2. Heart surgery
  3. Fibre-optics communication
  4. Concorde
  5. Computers & Radios
  6. Anesthetics
  7. The atom bomb

My Supreme Desire

Although I'd like to be rich and famous, my supreme desire is to be radiant: to radiate health, cheerfulness, calm courage and goodwill. I wish to live without hate, guilt, worry, jealousy, cynicism and envy. I wish to be honest, natural, confident, clean in mind and body - ready to say "I do not know" if it be so and to treat all men with kindness - to meet any loss, failure, criticism and rejection unabashed and unafraid.



Greatest American Presidents

  1. Abraham Lincoln
  2. George Washington
  3. Thomas Jefferson
  4. Franklin Roosevelt
  5. Theodore Roosevelt
  6. Woodrow Wilson
  7. Andrew Jackson

Making Peace With the Past

"Dwell not on your past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."

~Eileen Caddy

Toughest Colleges to Get Into

  1. MIT
  2. Princeton
  3. Harvard
  4. Yale
  5. Stanford
  6. Brown
  7. Columbia

Why You Should Trust God

"Men and women who turn their lives over to God will find out that He can make a lot more out of their lives than they can. He will deepen their joys, expand their vision, quicken their minds, strengthen their muscles, lift their spirits, multiply their blessings, increase their opportunities and pour out peace."

~Ezra Taft Benson

The 7 Greatest Scientists

  1. Albert Einstein
  2. Isaac Newton
  3. Galileo Galilei
  4. Nikola Tesla
  5. Aristotle
  6. Archimedes
  7. Charles Darwin

You Matter

"Always be yourself. Never try to hide who you are. The only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never regret the past; it's a waste of time. There's a reason for everything. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you, grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself and most importantly, do your thing and never apologize for being you."

~Unknown

The Most Industrialized Nations

  1. The United States
  2. Japan
  3. Germany
  4. France
  5. United Kingdom
  6. Italy
  7. Canada

Keys to Success

"...in his effort to withstand temptation, to economize, to exercise thrift, to disregard the superficial for the real - the shadow for the substance; to be great yet small, in his effort to be patient in the laying of a firm foundation; to so grow in skill and knowledge that he shall place his services in demand by reason of his intrinsic and superior worth. This is the key that unlocks every door of opportunity, and all others fail."

~Booker T. Washington

The 7 Social Sins

  1. Politics without principle
  2. Wealth without work
  3. Pleasure without conscience
  4. Knowledge without character
  5. Commerce without morality
  6. Worship without sacrifice
  7. Science without humanity

Cherish What You Love

"Cherish your visions, cherish your ideals, cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts - for out of them will grow all heavenly environment, of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built."~James Allen

The World's Largest Cities

  1. London in England
  2. New York in the United States
  3. Tokyo in Japan
  4. Berlin in Germany
  5. Chicago in the United States
  6. Shanghai in China
  7. Paris in France

Benefits of Optimism

"In terms of success, optimistic people out perform their pessimistic colleagues. Research shows that they are consistently promoted higher and make more money while working fewer hours than those who think pessimistically. Optimists also contribute more significantly to social progress. It is the optimists who start and run successful companies, who win elections and carry out reforms, and who make breakthroughs in the realms of science and technology."

~Pepe Minambo

The World's Greatest Lakes

  1. Caspian Sea in the Commonwealth of Independent States, C.I.S. (formerly U.S.S.R)
  2. Lake Superior in North America
  3. Victoria Nyanza in Central Africa
  4. Aral Sea in C.I.S.
  5. Lake Huron in North America
  6. Lake Michigan in North America

Demonstrating His Love

"Take your communication for instance - the way you address others. It ought to be with loving, gracious and edifying words. Never talk people down. Never use words that hurt and demean people. Communicate excellently with others without destroying their self-image or making them feel sorry for themselves. Talk to people in a way that they never forget the excellence of your words, the love and grace of Christ that you communicated. It's how God wants us to love."

~Dr. Chris Oyakhilome

World's Longest Rivers

  1. Missouri-Mississipi (U.S.)
  2. Amazon (Brazil)
  3. Nile (Egypt)
  4. Yangtse (China)
  5. Lena (Russia)
  6. Zaire (Central Africa)
  7. Niger (West Africa)