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"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty."— Maya Angelou


An Inspiring Speech

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This is me in January 2012 when I went to Starehe Boys' Centre, my Alma Mater, to deliver a speech I will tell you about in the story below.

Back in 2007 when I developed an interest in the art of effective communication, I read a certain communication textbook in which I came across a speech by United States Congressman Gerry Sikorski. The speech, which Sikorski delivered to the 1986 graduating class of Breckenridge High School in Minnesota, inspired me.

So much did the speech inspire me that later on when I typed it in a computer, I wanted to share it with everyone I knew. I emailed it to several friends, some of whom commented that it was inspirational.

In January 2012, I went to Starehe Boys' Centre, my former high school, to deliver the speech to its students. I presented a copy of the speech to the school administration for review. Sooner rather than later, I was permitted to deliver it to Starehe students during their evening assembly.

Just before delivering the speech, Mr. Matthew Kithyaka, the then director of Starehe, requested me to be brief, forcing me to omit much of the stuff in Sikorski's original speech. Perhaps because I didn't deliver the speech convincingly, I felt horribly carsick on my way back home that evening. That clearly taught me plagiarism just isn't right.

Even though I didn't sound convincing while delivering the speech, the fact that I went to Starehe to deliver it showed how deeply it inspired me. And the speech has had a huge impact on me. It has colored the way I have led my life over the last twelve years. Okay, let me tell you what the speech was about.

Sikorski began the speech by saying that as a congressman, he had met many successful people - religious, political, business and scientific leaders. During his interactions with them, he had asked them what they had learnt about life and people. It is from the answers he got from his question that he came up with six pieces of advice he had to the 1986 graduating class of Breckenridge High School.

First, he advised them to be absolutely determined to enjoy what they did. Giving two examples, he said he had never met anyone who succeeded at something he or she hated.

Second, he advised them not to be afraid to fail, and that when they failed at something, an experience they were likely to have, they should learn from it and move on.

Third, he advised them to never give up on anybody. (When I went to Starehe Boys' Centre to deliver a plagiarized version of Sikorski's speech, I told the students not to be surprised if the guy who hardly ever spoke in class became a government spokesman some day. Or if the guy who shied away from conversing with girls invited them for his wedding and the bride turned out to be a remarkably beautiful and sophisticated lady. Or if the guy who dropped physics in Form 3 came up with groundbreaking ideas in nuclear and atomic physics. I think Sikorski would agree with me on that.)

Fourth, Sikorski advised the 1986 Breckenridge High School graduates to come back home often, for he had learnt that when we face the toughest times in life, we have to get to our roots and remember our fundamentals. He mentioned that he was lucky to have parents who had taught him to work hard and care deeply; to suspect people on the make and still respect those who just can't make it.

Fifth, he advised them to trust their instincts. Since instincts come from fundamentals, he encouraged them to develop good ones and depend on them. He added that sometimes, their instincts would be all they'd have to tell them they were moving in the right direction when everyone else told them they were going crazy.

Lastly, Sikorski advised the high school graduates to trust their instincts and never give up on themselves. Pointing out that human progress is a chain and every generation forges a little piece of it, he challenged them to do what they could in their own lives to strengthen their link and thereby hand down a stronger chain to the next generation.

He informed the high school graduates that if justice was finally to be gained for the oppressed, it would be because their generation would give them people like Martin Luther King who faced guns and police dogs because he believed injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.

If the hungry were to be fed, it would be because their generation gave the world people as committed as Harry Chapin who gave the last years of his short life, not to the riches he could gain for himself as a singer, but to raising millions of dollars to help feed the hungry.

Before concluding his speech, Sikorski enlightened the high school graduates that as they sought their ways for themselves and for America, they had the tools needed to overcome world wars, great depressions and terrible natural disasters:
  • the values of a just society
  • the strength of revolutionary democracy
  • the power of a free economy
  • the muscle of a skilled workforce
  • the talents of an educated people
Sikorski concluded his speech by exhorting the high school graduates to have a vision, for as the book of Proverbs says, "where there is no vision, the people perish."

He apprised them that their vision for themselves and their country should be as John Steinbeck described it: "I see us ... not in the setting sun of a dark night of despair ahead. I see us in the crimson light of a rising sun, fresh from the burning, creative hand of God. I see great days ahead. Great days made possible by men and women of will and vision."

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RECOMMENDATION: If you've enjoyed the above story on a speech that inspired me, you might also enjoy another story on "An Inspiring Correspondence" which I wrote in 2018. Just click on that link in blue to dive straight into the story.

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How to Criticize Constructively

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As I narrated a few months ago on this blog, there is this valet named Jeremiah who my brothers hired to be looking after our aging Dad. He is a very dutiful man, always rising at the crack of dawn to do his work. And he cooks very delicious meals for us.

Jeremiah's strong work ethic made me like him during his first days here at home. But as the weeks rolled by, I began to notice a weakness in his character. He could be discourteous to me, like he did one night when he shouted at me impolitely for putting a bunch of spinach leaves in the fridge.

I felt insulted to hear him shout at me impolitely. Later on, I regretted why I hadn't faced him squarely in the eyes and instructed him to address me respectfully.

Perhaps encouraged by my timidity, Jeremiah began to talk back to me. Whenever I asked him whether there was any rice for cooking, he would snap back in Swahili, "Go look in the cabinet!"

It hurt me to hear him speak discourteously to me yet he has always been polite to Dad. And I think he was discourteous to me because I look like I am half his age.

After Jeremiah failed to read the signs of my displeasure with him, I erupted into fury one morning and said some things to him that I can't remember. I really was furious.

Although he changed a bit after my angry outburst, something about him made me dislike him once in a while. Maybe it's due to the way he has been fond of giving me the silent treatment whenever I request him to do something for us.

Yesternight when I beseeched him to cook chapatis which we haven't eaten in a while, he just kept quiet. I was about to go to my room to feast on my supper when an inner voice told me I had to stop this silent treatment of his. So I turned on my heel and went back to the kitchen.

I informed Jeremiah in the kindest manner possible that I didn't like the way he has been fond of staying silent whenever I request him to do something for us. (Mark you, I always request him to do something, not command.)

Even though I tried to be kind, my voice was throbbing with emotion. I spoke with such a feeling that Dad sensed something was amiss. When he inquired what was wrong, I just dismissed the issue by saying I was sorting out some things with Jeremiah.

Then I entered my room, my mind heavy with thoughts. I wondered whether I had offended anyone. As I always do whenever my heart is troubled, I approached God in prayer and asked Him to fill me with peace.

Despite my emotional reaction, I became convinced that I had done the right thing by letting Jeremiah know he was hurting me with his silent treatment. At last, I had applied some wisdom I gleaned from a certain magazine I came across at the Kenya National Library in Nairobi back in 2011.

According to that magazine, when we notice a problem with someone we are working or staying with, most of us initially don't say anything about it. We just bottle up resentment until we explode all of a sudden.

In our anger, we say hurtful remarks like, "You make me sick! You always put me off! You never listen to what I say!"

Such hurtful remarks not only damage our relationship with the person we are criticizing, they also leave us feeling bad about ourselves. Our feelings of discontent intensify or remain the same.

I learnt from that magazine that there is a constructive way of criticizing someone. The magazine called it the criticism sandwich. We basically say the good sides of the person we are criticizing and then utter the bad side in between the compliments. For instance, you might criticize me this way:
Thuita, you are an exceptionally intelligent young man and I am proud to be your friend. But I think you'd even be a greater person if you realized it's not proper to share such information as this. I know it's most unlike you to get things wrong. You are so dependable and I want you to know how much I value you.
That kind of criticism reveals that you've thought deeply about my problem and care about my feelings. It will inspire me to change without making me resent you. And it will improve the quality of our friendship.

In my talk with Jeremiah yesternight, I did some good by letting him know he was hurting me with his silent treatment. The only thing I didn't do was sandwich my criticism in between compliments of how dutiful he is and how great he is at cooking.

Next time I have a problem with someone I am working or staying with, I will strive to apply the criticism sandwich in its entirety when resolving the problem. Not an unwise course of action for you to take as well, my beloved reader!

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Bible Quote

"Always be full of joy in the Lord; I say it again, rejoice! Let everyone see that you are unselfish and considerate in all you do... Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."

~Phillipians 4:4-7 (TLB)

About the Author

Name: Thuita J. Maina
Nationality: Kenyan
Lives in: Kiserian, Rift Valley, Kenya
Mission: To inspire the world to godly living, one person at a time.

Just For Laughs

There was this drunkard named Azoge who loved drinking at Josiah's Bar. On being told a certain Hon. Nanga was flying to America to be conferred a law degree so that he could be admitted to the bar, Azoge replied, "Why fly all the way to America to be admitted to the bar while you can get into Josiah's Bar any time?"



The 7 Deadly Sins

  1. Pride
  2. Envy
  3. Gluttony
  4. Lust
  5. Anger
  6. Greed
  7. Sloth

Author's Note

I am learning to treat life as a journey, not a destination. So I am trying to enjoy each day as I anticipate to fulfill my dreams especially meeting my soulmate and traveling abroad. Tomorrow may never be mine.

Fun Facts

  1. The fear of having no cell-phone service, running out of battery, or losing sight of your phone is called Nomophobia, reportedly affecting 66% of people.
  2. A single Google search needs more computing power than it took to send Apollo 11 to the moon. The Apollo computer was less equipped than a modern toaster.
  3. Besides being some of the biggest names in the tech industry, HP, Apple, Google and Microsoft share another commonality. They all started in garages.
~Extracted from Codingforums.com

Health Tip

So many of us take for granted the wonderful construction of the human body and the workings of its various parts. Some of us even expect it to function efficiently with less than the minimum care and attention. Learn the much you can about your body and how the care of it can help to give you that greatest blessing of all - good health.


Wonders of the Modern World

  1. The Simplon Tunnel
  2. The Sky-scrapers of New York
  3. The Boulder Dam of Colorado
  4. The Panama Canal
  5. The Golden Gate Bridge
  6. The Taj Mahal at Agra in India
  7. The North Sea Oil Drilling Rigs

Great Example for Politicians

"My life in politics was a joy. I loved campaigns and I loved governing. I always tried to keep things moving in the right direction, to give more people a chance to live their dreams, to lift people's spirits, and to bring them together. That's the way I kept score."

~Bill Clinton

Scientific Marvels

  1. Space travel
  2. Heart surgery
  3. Fibre-optics communication
  4. Concorde
  5. Computers & Radios
  6. Anesthetics
  7. The atom bomb

My Supreme Desire

Although I'd like to be rich and famous, my supreme desire is to be radiant: to radiate health, cheerfulness, calm courage and goodwill. I wish to live without hate, guilt, worry, jealousy, cynicism and envy. I wish to be honest, natural, confident, clean in mind and body - ready to say "I do not know" if it be so and to treat all men with kindness - to meet any loss, failure, criticism and rejection unabashed and unafraid.



Greatest American Presidents

  1. Abraham Lincoln
  2. George Washington
  3. Thomas Jefferson
  4. Franklin Roosevelt
  5. Theodore Roosevelt
  6. Woodrow Wilson
  7. Andrew Jackson

Making Peace With the Past

"Dwell not on your past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."

~Eileen Caddy

Toughest Colleges to Get Into

  1. MIT
  2. Princeton
  3. Harvard
  4. Yale
  5. Stanford
  6. Brown
  7. Columbia

Why You Should Trust God

"Men and women who turn their lives over to God will find out that He can make a lot more out of their lives than they can. He will deepen their joys, expand their vision, quicken their minds, strengthen their muscles, lift their spirits, multiply their blessings, increase their opportunities and pour out peace."

~Ezra Taft Benson

The 7 Greatest Scientists

  1. Albert Einstein
  2. Isaac Newton
  3. Galileo Galilei
  4. Nikola Tesla
  5. Aristotle
  6. Archimedes
  7. Charles Darwin

You Matter

"Always be yourself. Never try to hide who you are. The only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never regret the past; it's a waste of time. There's a reason for everything. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you, grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself and most importantly, do your thing and never apologize for being you."

~Unknown

The Most Industrialized Nations

  1. United States
  2. Japan
  3. Germany
  4. France
  5. United Kingdom
  6. Italy
  7. Canada

Keys to Success

"...in his effort to withstand temptation, to economize, to exercise thrift, to disregard the superficial for the real - the shadow for the substance; to be great yet small, in his effort to be patient in the laying of a firm foundation; to so grow in skill and knowledge that he shall place his services in demand by reason of his intrinsic and superior worth. This is the key that unlocks every door of opportunity, and all others fail."

~Booker T. Washington

The 7 Social Sins

  1. Politics without principle
  2. Wealth without work
  3. Pleasure without conscience
  4. Knowledge without character
  5. Commerce without morality
  6. Worship without sacrifice
  7. Science without humanity

Cherish What You Love

"Cherish your visions, cherish your ideals, cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts - for out of them will grow all heavenly environment, of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built."~James Allen

The World's Largest Cities

  1. London in England
  2. New York in the United States
  3. Tokyo in Japan
  4. Berlin in Germany
  5. Chicago in the United States
  6. Shanghai in China
  7. Paris in France

Benefits of Optimism

"In terms of success, optimistic people out perform their pessimistic colleagues. Research shows that they are consistently promoted higher and make more money while working fewer hours than those who think pessimistically. Optimists also contribute more significantly to social progress. It is the optimists who start and run successful companies, who win elections and carry out reforms, and who make breakthroughs in the realms of science and technology."

~Pepe Minambo

The World's Greatest Lakes

  1. Caspian Sea in the Commonwealth of Independent States, C.I.S. (formerly U.S.S.R)
  2. Lake Superior in North America
  3. Victoria Nyanza in Central Africa
  4. Aral Sea in C.I.S.
  5. Lake Huron in North America
  6. Lake Michigan in North America

Demonstrating His Love

"Take your communication for instance - the way you address others. It ought to be with loving, gracious and edifying words. Never talk people down. Never use words that hurt and demean people. Communicate excellently with others without destroying their self-image or making them feel sorry for themselves. Talk to people in a way that they never forget the excellence of your words, the love and grace of Christ that you communicated. It's how God wants us to love."

~Dr. Chris Oyakhilome

World's Longest Rivers

  1. Missouri-Mississipi (U.S.)
  2. Amazon (Brazil)
  3. Nile (Egypt)
  4. Yangtse (China)
  5. Lena (Russia)
  6. Zaire (Central Africa)
  7. Niger (West Africa)